So, I have abandoned the idea of coming up with a new faq to find the true answer to because, well, none of them actually have a real answer so there goes that idea.
As for me, I have learned a lot of lessons this summer, and considering its only about half over I wonder what the rest of the season is going to bring. Among the lessons I have learned are:
1. Unless something you hear or read materializes there is no reason to make a big deal of it. It will only cause you more stress than it's worth and 9 times out of 10 it is something harmless that has just been misinterpreted or just said without truth or consideration.
2. How to keep my mouth shut (for the most part anyway...still working on it) in situations where nothing should be said. So many arguments start between two people because one or the other says something that shouldnt have been said in the first place. Letting something go that I feel strongly about is hard for me to do, but when it is between bringing up a sore topic/asking a stupid question or being happy around someone I choose the latter every time...or at least im getting there.
3. There is no age on love. If you find the person that makes you happy in life, the person who is always there for you when you need them and who makes you feel like you are the only person in the world that is capable of completing them, why keep looking. Society has somehow gotten to the idea that older people are the only ones who should get married or fall in love, but when you really think about it that is terrible advice. When you wait so long to get married to someone it sends the message that you are not serious about them and are only marrying them out of logical order of life events. Or, people who wait to get married until they have everything figured out and have their life in order; things change when you get married whether it is for the better or worse so waiting and making a calculated decision on when to get married (then latting it crumble because it didnt go according to plan) is just as bad, if not worse, than getting married/falling in love young. Being someones "other half" should be a privilage not an imposition or calculated action. There is no better feeling than knowing you found someone who makes you happier than anyone else ever could. Im not saying that everything is going to constantly be great; in the words of Maroon 5 "it's not always rainbows and butterflies, it's compromise that moves us along" but taking the good with the bad and appreciating the other person is priceless no matter what age you are. Whether you are 19 or 90 knowing that someone chose you over the billions of other potential partners is a wonderful feeling.
4. A great friend is hard to come by, but when you find one you better hold onto them. My best friend and I have known each other since 5th grade and have been besties ever since. We may not get to talk to each other as much as we would like, but we don't have to talk every day to know that we're cool (after all, we're adults and work eats up a lot of time for both of us...no to mention we live about an hour apart:/) But I know that I can always lean on her for advice and she knows that she can always come to me when she needs advice or just someone to listen. I am glad that she has found someone who makes her so happy because she deserves it more than anyone else I know. She prettymuch equals about 20 regular friends :) Love you miss girl!
5. And finally, (there are many more but this post is already long enough), no one can live your life for you or decide how you should do things. If something makes you happy then do it, don't just go down one path because you are trying to make someone else happy. It doesn't matter how happy you make others if you are miserable on the inside. Do what makes you happy and don't apologize for it. If someone has a problem with it they should just get over it. They don't have to walk in your shoes so you shouldn't have to follow in their rules to be successful and happy every day of your life.
These life lessons are pretty common knowledge, but until you have had an experience with them first-hand it is a little harder to take someone's word for it. Until next time, life lessons are everywhere, you just have to take the time to realize when one is being presented to you :)
